How girls ruin...?

மது, மாது, சூது (liquor, girl, crookedness) - Tamil tantras list down one's reason for fall/collapse. In recent times, I'm hearing many relational breakups and personal collapse due to "girl". Some even seem to have damaged career, business, friends, family, etc. I'm thinking, how come such girls are getting cabal and ruin things... Not to blame it on them--but to blame it on guys...

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